I’ve been experiencing a little blogging bewilderment lately. Sometimes my thoughts spill out of me in currents splashing on the page looking for a place to land. I write in notebooks. I write on the computer. I write on little pieces of paper that eventually find their way into a pile, a box, or an envelope waiting to be crafted into a blog post, a journal entree, a teleclass, a talk.
But much of my writing these past two months has been falling into the “untold stories” pile. That’s where I grapple with the darker side of my psyche and soul. That’s where I process the grief I hold as I watch my father struggle to keep his balance or get up out of his chair for a meal. That’s where I process the sadness that consumes me when I look at a client, a beautiful young woman who cannot see her own beauty, only the “number” on a scale or the protrusion of her belly. No matter how hard we work on the nourishment piece, embracing our bodies and DELIGHTING in the transformation in our skin when we begin to nourish it from the inside out, we always come back to . . .
I thought about taking a little writer’s hiatus. Perhaps I could just go back to my weekly newsletter for a while and talk about the carotenoids in carrots. Yes, that’s safe. Everyone likes a good carrot ginger soup recipe. I thought perhaps I could buy a little time while I crafted the next approach I could take in guiding some of these women into a more nourishing, compassionate place around food and their bodies.
And then this video landed on my facebook page. It reminded me why I do this work. It reminded me that I can show women how to make green smoothies, juice kale, prepare an elegantly easy meal, maybe even SIT DOWN at the table and enjoy that meal with their families
BUT THERE IS A MUCH LARGER ISSUE AT HAND HERE.
There are photographs everywhere, ads depicting images that no healthy woman or girl should aspire to. And there are times I feel woefully ill-equipped to make a difference when these industries are so powerfully built to woo us into the seduction of “skinny”.
Skinny jeans, skinny love, skinny girl margaritas, Skinny Bitch. How about if we take the positive charge out of the word “skinny” and really expose that word for what it is? What if the cultural message we promote is NOT skinny. How about healthy, robust, strong . . . Will you help me brainstorm a list of life-giving words?
So here is what I need from you. I want to capture the “untold” stories. I want to illuminate the struggles and encapsulate them in a form that speaks volumes. Will you help me? Will you share with me YOUR STORY? Our stories need to be voiced. They may flow through you or with you in words or in print, in poetry or in prose. I would like to bring these stories to light, to GIVE VOICE to the WOMANgirlCHILD in us who needs to be heard. They can be stories of hope. They can be stories of despair. Together we’ll decide where they will live and in what form.
Begin with this video. Tell me what it evokes in you? Anger? Fear? Shame?
Then, SHARE THIS POST. Share the video. Bring the conversation to light. Perhaps we’ll write a new script. For ourselves. For our girls.
Leave a message here. Tell me what came up for you when you viewed the video. Send me a personal message if you want to share a deeper story. I will hold those stories in a very sacred place.
And finally, head over to Medicinal Marzipan to see how you can participate in …
Throughout the series we look at food through a culinary lens: why it’s so important to prepare beautiful, fresh, wholesome meals, how our metabolism is impacted by the sensory experience of eating, how to prepare seriously simple 10-minute meals using flavor balancing techniques and the elements of taste. You will receive recipes and action steps each week and we’ll share our experiences as we expand our food repertoire and learn how to eat in a way that nourishes us at every level. This is an ongoing thread in the series. We talk about “the food” in every session.
I’m seeing a pattern in the women I work with. Nine out of ten report that they are not tending to their creative life. Many do not have a spiritual practice. I’ve added a new component to my work. During times of change and transformation it is empowering to have ways to express ourselves in writing or through art. You’ll be thinking about your creative life as you discover new ways to illuminate and display your nourishment story. Yes, you may even break out the art supplies and construct a collage or a vision board. Or, you may prefer to simply wrap yourself in the poetry and power of words.
Would you like to learn how to slow down the aging process so that you can restore that youthful glow and strengthen your bones at the same time? While most people have a general understanding that the body requires nutrients to function, the focus has been on macronutrients: protein, fat, and carbohydrates. In this session we’ll talk about the role of phyto-nutrients in our diets.
Phyto-nutrients are newcomers to the health food table. This is where you’ll learn about the true meaning of super foods. And, I won’t be selling you potions or powders. This session may sound a little scientific, but I promise to deliver it with culinary rock star savvy! Yes, instead of a list of super foods and all their redeeming qualities, I’ll provide you with luscious recipes to nourish your skin from the inside out.
This is a very important session for all you overachievers out there who exercise like crazy believing that more exercise and less food is the formula for weight loss. That’s an outdated, overrated model. Believe me, I lived that model for most of my adult life—teaching aerobics, exercising like a fiend both in and outside the gym, and trying every new diet that came down the pike.
Here’s what I’ve learned.
The body does, indeed, have a “happy” weight. When you try to wrestle your body into a weight that you consider ideal, it wrestles back.
Here’s what I teach.
First we work on “loving what is,” essentially, what it means to be happy in our bodies, right now. This is an art and those who have mastered it radiate a very distinct sensuality—at any age. (At any weight.) Guess what? The men in our lives would take that over skinny and contracted any day!
Then, I show you how to nourish your body with beautiful food so that you can release the weight that isn’t yours to carry.
After that, we talk about cutting-edge research on fitness and exercise and how you can tweak your workout to get more bang for your buck in far less time.
In this session we’re going to look at all the factors that contribute to the hormone cascade that has us feeling grumpy, scattered, hopeless, hapless, and just plain scared—
Is this as good as it gets?
Am I destined to suffer the perimenopause plummet and then slide into a deeper hole when menopause manifests itself in my body?
I can tell you from personal experience, when you learn how to balance your hormones with diet and lifestyle changes, menopause is exactly that—a pause. I’m almost 55 and the only time I experience a hot flash is when I’ve had a little too much red wine or a few too many excitotoxins. Seriously!
In this session we’ll explore archetypes and energy. Archetypes define the stories we live. Sometimes there’s a rebel at the table. We know we’re too full to eat another bite but we order dessert anyway. Why? Because we CAN and no one is going to tell us otherwise.
Sometimes the good girl archetype shows up and finishes everything on her plate even though she reached satiation long before the last morsel was consumed.
This session will leave you laughing (sometimes crying) as we explore the archetypes that grace our tables and the silent or unconscious agreements we have around food.
Do you find yourself traveling from one diet or nutritional system to the next, but never really getting a handle on your weight, your energy, or the moods that send you running to the refrigerator when you’re not even hungry?
You may be suffering from toxic weight syndrome. Okay, I made that up. But the reality is: the not-so-obvious toxins in our lives show up as pounds of protection. Toxic relationships. Toxic thoughts. Toxic habits. You can drink gallons of green juice and try all kinds of cleansing routines and still not get the results you’re looking for if you don’t address the underlying issues around weight gain and energy leaks.
In this session we’ll talk about the relationship between clutter and weight. Why do we need to look at the clutter in our lives? Clutter contributes to stress and stress reduces our metabolic power and sets off a cascade of hormonal events that create physiologic changes in our bodies. These changes impact our skin, heart rate, digestion, joints, muscles, energy levels. Even the hair on our heads.
And then, there’s clutter. Physical clutter weighs us down. And so does psychic clutter. You know—saying yes when your heart says no, holding onto resentment, stuffing anger, or denying disappointment.
In this session you’ll learn how to break free from the clutter that is contributing to your struggles around weight and energy. You’ll learn valuable tips and strategies to transform your home and your thinking into clean, harmonious environments where you feel happy, alive, calm and at peace. Who wouldn’t want that?
Over the last twenty years research has shown that the source of most of our stress is the brain itself. Once we understand how thoughts, feelings, and emotions impact our digestive wellness, we’ll be able to make different choices and create neural pathways that support our weight balancing goals.
In this session you’ll learn how to recognize the unconscious patterns that amplify the stress in your life. Then, you’ll learn (and practice) strategies to help you move through stress rather than getting stuck in it. Yes, we’re going to work on rewiring your emotional brain with simple, yet elegant tools.
Is your brain wired for joy? You’ll leave this session with a new sense of freedom plus solid strategies for dealing with stress-induced meltdowns.
Have you noticed all the detox workshops available online today? How about the “shakes” everyone is touting or the “jumpstart” to get you back on track? What really bothers me about this cleansing frenzy is the implication that food is somehow dirty and enjoying food is a sin to be cleansed.
Honestly? These tactics make me a little crazy. Why? Because they are rooted in faulty, sometimes dangerous, nutritional belief systems. They are also designed to play on your fear. OMG, I must be dirty, I better clean up my act. Guess what? Your body is designed to clean up your act. You do not need to go into overdrive (overkill) to do that job for it. In fact, it’s just not smart. Think about it. If we “rush” something, does it get done well? If we overtax the liver with a flush, might we actually be stressing the very organ we count on to detoxify our system every single day?
Are you seeing a pattern here? There’s that word again: stress. Remember, stress reduces our metabolic power and sets off a cascade of hormonal events that create physiologic changes in our bodies. These changes impact our skin, heart rate, digestion, joints, muscles, energy levels, weight, and even the hair on our heads. Let’s exchange the outside-in approaches for a more intelligent body wisdom approach to nourishment.
Spring is nature’s new year. It provides us with leafy greens, sweet peas and root vegetables—foods that clean and detoxify the body. The harvest of spring resets the body’s fat-burning mechanism. It’s also the perfect time to clean up your act with REAL food and healthier lifestyle habits.
Let’s learn how to nurture and nourish those organs so that they can do their job. Doesn’t it make more sense to work on some of our not-so-healthy habits while learning how to eat in a way that will never again require extreme cleansing measures?
When we view food as “nourishment,” we stop treating it as something to be cleansed from our bodies. How sweet is that?
There will always be one or more interviews with guest experts as we move through the series. Trust me, these interviews are rich.