Good Morning Beautiful,
Yes you. Even during the holiday season, eating all the foods on your “mustn’t eat” list. Guess what? Black and white eating (and thinking) doesn’t serve you, anymore.
There is spaciousness in the gray.
You see, when you beat yourself up for not being perfect at this food thing; when you set standards for your eating (and probably your life) that no healthy woman should live up to, you’re entering that black and white place again.
That’s a rather constrictive place to live. And guess what? All this work you’re doing to get it “right.” All this work you’re doing to…
wrestle your body into health?
It actually takes you further away from your goal because the body doesn’t respond well to wrestling.
It wants to be gently guided
It needs to be gently guided
You can’t hate yourself into health.
Your body has a deeper wisdom than your head.
Every pound of weight (notice I did not say fat), every pound of weight on that gorgeous body of yours is there to teach you something.
I’m convinced it’s there to teach you all about the
spaciousness in the gray.
That’s where you can eat beautiful food
and enjoy it
even when it isn’t on your “A List.”
That’s where you can eat grandma’s cookies and watch her face light up when she hears you say, “These cookies are absolutely delicious!”
And mean it.
Gray is a place where you go away on vacation and look at a menu and order whatever you like. Not because you are going to come home and cleanse it all away in whatever form that takes for you:
Extreme dietary measures.
Drinking nothing but green juice for a week and wreaking havoc on your metabolism.
Or perhaps shaming yourself into a place where you dread holidays for the rest of your life.
You needn’t do any of this. You simply need to enjoy yourself.
And your family.
And Grandma’s cookies.
Because those cookies may nourish you at a much deeper level than you realize.
And there may come a day when Grandma isn’t there anymore saying, “I baked these cookies
just for YOU.”
The more relaxed you become around food and your body, the more relaxed IT will become.
And a relaxed body finds balance. A relaxed body releases weight when there is weight to be released. A relaxed body is simply much more fun to be around, don’t you think?
Gray is a place where you
embrace your body, even your belly.
Uh huh. Your belly. That beautiful belly that has worked so hard to digest your food, give birth to your children, tell you when you are hungry or perhaps, a little too full.
Gray is a place where you can choose to “upgrade” the cookies at the annual cookie exchange.
You simply don’t have to be so very “good” all the time. You might even start cultivating the Inner Rascal.
Remember, there is spaciousness in the gray.
Oh I know, you’re simply not buying this. You can’t hear it yet. That’s okay. We all have a process and you may be here in this black and white place a while longer. You might choose
perfection over self-love
angst over ease
contraction over grace
worry over sweet surrender.
But I just wanted to whisper in your ear that there is a softer way to be in the world.
And it’s pretty spectacular.
And you don’t have to wait until your body breaks down from all that stress
and all that angst
and all that worry.
You can lean into a more nourishing place
one day at a time.
You can enjoy the holiday season in all its flourish
and keep coming back to center. I’ll meet you there
with tea and chocolate.